Different people have different views on it. Myself, the sound of kissing is like nails on a chalkboard. In fact, I can’t listen to the song ‘By the Sea’ on the Sweeny Todd soundtrack because it begins with kissing noises.
Don’t get me wrong – I enjoy kissing. Soft and gentle or passionate and hard, as long as it’s not slobbery (or loud), I enjoy a good kiss.
Not only is it a way to “tell if he loves you so“, but – as I’ve figured out – it’s a way to tell if you have enough chemistry to even try to make it work. In fact, I like to START a first date with a kiss. If there isn’t any bio-chemistry, the relationship simply isn’t worth forcing. Sadly, most people aren’t okay with kissing a total stranger, so the kissing has to wait until later.
If the kiss gives you the feeling that you want more, then a second date might be in order. But, if you feel like you’re kissing a cousin or sibling – it’s not going to get better. You bio-chemistry is off. Let it go. That’s not to say that you don’t have a connection – maybe this is a really good friend in the works. But, if there isn’t any spark – even in the beginning of the relationship – let it go. Yes, you could learn to love the person, but is that the way you want the lust part of the relationship to start?
If it is, more power to you. But, me, I like a good connection in the beginning and one that can grow from there.